From an early age, many of us are taught to be humble, to avoid talking too much about our accomplishments, and to let our work ‘speak for itself.’ While humility has its place, when it turns into self-silencing, it can become one of the biggest roadblocks to success—especially for women. Society has conditioned us to believe that acknowledging our strengths and achievements is synonymous with arrogance, when in reality, it’s simply owning our value.
The result? Talented, hardworking individuals—especially women—downplay their success, hesitate to take credit, and struggle with visibility in their industries. But here’s the truth: dimming your light doesn’t serve anyone.
Balancing Confidence Without Boasting
There’s a balance between being confident and being boastful, and the key is ownership. Owning your accomplishments isn’t about shouting them from the rooftops; it’s about standing in your expertise and making sure the right people know what you bring to the table.
When you acknowledge your achievements, you:
- Set the standard for how others should view and value your work.
- Open doors for more opportunities.
- Inspire others who may be struggling with self-doubt.
- Attract the right audience who respects and values your expertise.
Confidence isn’t about being the loudest person in the room. It’s about being undeniably present, knowing your worth, and communicating it effectively.
Finding Your Voice and Authority
For many, stepping into a space of confidence isn’t immediate—it’s a muscle that needs to be worked on and strengthened over time. Finding your voice means:
- Speaking up even when it feels uncomfortable.
- Recognizing and affirming your expertise.
- Claiming credit for your work.
- Standing firm in your decisions and insights.
One of the best things I’ve learned from watching successful entrepreneurs and industry leaders is that the ones who truly make an impact aren’t afraid to own their space. They don’t diminish themselves to make others comfortable. They aren’t loud for the sake of being loud, but their presence is powerful and authoritative.
Learning from Those Who Own Their Power
A perfect example of this is Jackie Aina—a trailblazer in the beauty and lifestyle space. She didn’t just make a name for herself in makeup; she revolutionized conversations around inclusivity, representation, and luxury as a Black woman in an industry that often overlooks these voices.
Jackie doesn’t shrink herself to fit into outdated molds of what a beauty influencer should be. She embraces her presence with authority, and that has not only built her career but has paved the way for so many others to do the same.
Encouraging Others to Find Their Strength
One of the things I admire most about the leaders I look up to is that they don’t just own their accomplishments—they encourage others to do the same. The best entrepreneurs and innovators create space for others to grow, reminding them that stepping into their power isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
If you’re someone who has been conditioned to ‘be humble’ at the expense of visibility, I encourage you to start small. Celebrate your wins. Acknowledge your expertise. Speak with confidence. Like any skill, finding and using your voice takes practice—but the more you do it, the more natural it becomes.
Because at the end of the day, playing small serves no one. The world needs what you have to offer, and it’s time to own it.
What’s Holding You Back?
What would change in your life and career if you fully embraced your voice and stopped downplaying your achievements?
