Slow Down to Show Up: How to Find Time for Yourself Every Day

Let me just say it—I get it. Life moves fast. Between work, family, and everything in between, finding time for yourself feels almost impossible. Trust me, I’ve been there. For the longest time, I thought the busier I was, the better I was doing. But let’s be real: burnout doesn’t make you a hero, it just makes you… tired.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: taking time for yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. You can’t pour from an empty cup, right? So let’s talk about what it actually looks like to take a breather, even when life doesn’t slow down.

Why You Come First

We live in a culture that glorifies the grind. But constantly running on empty doesn’t help you thrive—it drains the spark that makes you, well, you. Taking time for yourself is about more than rest; it’s about resetting, recharging, and staying connected to what fuels you. Because when you’re at your best, that’s when you truly shine.

Ways to Find Balance Without Losing Momentum

• Make Space on Your Calendar: Time for yourself doesn’t just appear—you have to claim it. I know people who block out moments pre- and post-client calls just to breathe and debrief. Personally, this habit has been a lifesaver, especially for someone like me who’s just starting to enjoy calls again (probably because they’re on Zoom now instead of regular phone calls).
• For Office Warriors: If you’re in an office, your version of “me time” might look like not eating lunch at your desk. Step away. Whether it’s the building cafeteria, your car, or a quiet space, take a moment to regroup. Work will always be busy, but you don’t have to be. And no, driving to and from work doesn’t count—let’s be honest, that’s just another kind of focus you have to maintain.
• Little Things, Big Impact: Don’t underestimate the power of simplicity. Taking a walk, eating lunch in peace, or spending time in nature (preferably near water, because lakes and waterfalls just hit differently) can be incredibly grounding.
• Embrace the Blank Space: Ever notice how your best ideas come when you’re not actively trying? That’s the magic of downtime. Let your mind wander—it’s often where clarity and creativity thrive.
• Use Tech to Unplug: Apps designed for focus or calm can help you carve out intentional moments of peace. It’s all about using technology to serve you, not the other way around.

The Ripple Effect of Rest

Here’s the thing: when you take time for yourself, everything else benefits. You show up stronger, think clearer, and (surprise!) actually enjoy what you’re doing. For me, it’s been a game-changer. Slowing down has made me a better leader, a more creative thinker, and honestly, a much happier person

So here’s my challenge to you: Find your moments. Take a walk, watch the sunset, or even just eat lunch somewhere that isn’t your desk. Rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a strategy for living well.

And don’t forget, you’re not just taking time from something. You’re taking time for yourself. That’s where the magic happens.